Love fights fair.
Love is not a fight, but it is always worth fighting for.
As fallen humanity, we enter marriage not just with hopes and dreams but also with hurts, fears, imperfections, and emotional baggage.
Once in marriage we soon begin to realize, unpleasantly though, how sinful and selfish each could be.
The storms of life also begin testing and revealing what we are really made of. Conflict sets in.
In the thick of conflict, pride is strongest. Anger is hottest. In conflict, I am most selfish and judgmental. Words contain the most venom. Unbridled conflict can lead marriage to self-destruct.
This is where love comes in.
Love helps install airbags and helps set up guard rails in marriage.
I must learn to work through conflict more effectively.
I must learn to fight clean by establishing healthy rules of engagement.
The dare is to figure out how to stay in bounds when the action heats up.
I will never mention divorce.
I must learn not to bring up old, unrelated items from the past.
I will never fight in public or in front of our children.
I will seek a "time out" when things escalate to a damaging level.
I will never touch my wife in a harmful way.
I we re-learn to never go to bed angry with my wife.
Failure is not an option!
Fighting fair means changing my weapons! Disagreeing with dignity!
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